Psychosexual Therapy

Sex Therapy in Peterborough and Oundle

I am a fully qualified psychosexual therapist, which means I treat problems people have in the bedroom.  I have been providing sex therapy in the Peterborough area for many years.

The most common issue I help people with is loss of desire, but I also treat other specific issues such as :

  • Loss of desire and arousal difficulties
  • Anxiety around sex, relationships and intimacy
  • Pornography issues
  • Dyspareunia (pain during intercourse)
  • Vaginismus
  • Erectile or ejaculation problems
  • Sexual phobias
  • Compulsive sexual behaviours
  • Orgasmic or anorgasmic problems

Do you need sex therapy?

Many people (more than you’d think) suffer with sexual problems. Many people also find it difficult to talk about such issues with friends and family and so will often “suffer in silence”, not knowing if there is any help available for them. This can have a serious impact on sexual health, happiness and well-being. If you are suffering from any of the issues listed above or any other problem connected to your sex-life, sex therapy could provide a solution.

I understand how difficult it is to take the first step and speak to someone about sexual issues. I provide a professional, friendly and non-judgemental place to talk freely about what is concerning you.

During my initial assessment (which lasts for an hour and is free) I will ask you what the specific nature of your problem is and then decide whether or not I can help you with a treatment programme. One reason why psychosexual therapy may not be the best treatment is if the problem is a purely medical issue, such as an injury or physical illness. If that is the case I will give you advice regarding the best way forward, such as suggesting you visit your doctor or gynaecologist.

If psychosexual therapy is appropriate I will outline exactly what a sex therapy treatment programme is and (possibly more importantly) what it isn’t!

The Sex Therapy Treatment Programme

My treatment programmes use Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), which is a very ‘forward-looking’ methodology. During the initial session I will do what is referred to as a ‘history-take’ where I ask you lots of questions about your life and history. From then we leave the past in the past and instead focus on the present and the future. We identify where you currently are and where you want to be. It’s my job to break that journey down into smaller, achievable chunks for you. I keep the bigger picture in mind and give you short-term, weekly tasks and they are all you need to focus on. At our weekly sessions we will discuss whether you have successfully completed those tasks or not.

All the tasks are physical. At first they will be sensual, not sexual, to establish a baseline and understanding of how the therapy will work. Then we will move on to general sexual tasks, then sexual tasks which are specific to the issues and problems we are working on.

At first, everyone feels a little awkward when talking about sex but I assure you that very quickly you won’t give it a second thought and we will be discussing sex as comfortably as if we were discussing the weather. Also, please be assured that all tasks are to be completed in the privacy of your own home – nothing but talking happens in my counselling room!

Usually things go really well and for a few weeks all weekly goals are achieved. It’s not unusual for us to then hit a problem, a block where something comes up that prevents you from achieving your goal. That is perfectly normal and gives us the opportunity to tackle that particular issue and clear the problem out.

I work with both individuals and couples. Depending on the nature of the problem we are dealing with, some of the treatment tasks are suitable for people working on their own. An example would be premature ejaculation. Other tasks are better done by both partners, such as if the problem we are dealing with is a loss of desire within the relationship.

It is often the case that sexual problems have a psychological and emotional dimension or impact on the people involved and sometimes a period of counselling is needed as well as the psychosexual therapy. Because of my extensive experience as a counsellor as well as a sex therapist I am able to move from one to the other whenever necessary. My treatment programmes are flexible and adaptable and ensure my clients get the right kind of help at the right time.

What is the next step?

If you have a sexual problem that you feel you may need help with, please contact me to arrange a consultation (it’s free!):

By phone/text: 07538 239230

By Email via this contact page.

If you do not hear back from me immediately it may be because I am with clients. I will get back to you as soon as I can.